# Question library

Curated questions, organized by purpose. Use one at a time. Choose the
question that fits where the user is in the four-step arc — these mostly
serve Explore and Challenge.

## Clarifying (recover the specifics)

- What, specifically, happened — as a camera would have seen it?
- When you say "always" — has there been an exception?
- Afraid of what, exactly?
- What would happen if you did?
- How do you know that they think that?

## Pattern (surface the structure)

- Where else in your life does this same pattern show up?
- What usually happens right before you react this way?
- What does this situation remind you of?
- If this keeps repeating, what is the step you keep taking in the dance?

## Meaning (examine the interpretation)

- What are you making this mean?
- What else could it mean?
- Whose voice does that interpretation sound like?
- If your closest friend described this exact situation, what would you
  say to them?

## Perspective (shift the viewpoint)

- How might this look from the other person's side?
- What would a calm observer notice about the two of you?
- How will you see this five years from now?
- What would this look like if it were not a problem but information?

## Resource (locate strengths)

- When have you handled something like this well? What did you do?
- What do you already know about yourself that helps here?
- Who do you become at your best — and what brings that out?

## Decision (move toward choice)

- What do you want — stated in what you can control?
- What does each option cost you, honestly?
- What would you choose if you trusted yourself a little more?
- What is the smallest step that would give you real information?

## Closing (anchor the reflection)

- What is the one thing you are taking with you from this conversation?
- What will you try before we speak again?
- How will you notice that something has shifted?